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Charge of the Soggy Knees

This was done in collaboration with Mad man Ministries, who did the music. I wrote the lyrics, and since no other woman we asked was willing to sing, I did that too.
Probably won't do that very much because it's really not my forte... pun intended.

Anyway, the title is The Charge of the Soggy Knees, and here are the lyrics:

There is a thought terminatin’ cliche
They call misogyny
And it’s been the ruin of many a good debate
With the charge of soggy knees

Been called a gender traitor
Just because I’ve said I see
Through feminism's hateful rhetoric
And their claim to speak for me

Didn’t know compassion’s limited
It’s a negative sum game
And you’re not allowed by the social justice crowd
To have sympathy for men

These motherfucking children
Can’t discuss things rationally
Treat care for men as an attack on women
So they cry misogyny

We all will be no platformed
We all will be called names
We’ll be accused of having hateful views
To silence us with shame

There is a thought terminatin’ cliche
They call misogyny
And it’s been the ruin of many a good debate
But that won’t be stopping me

Comment under the video "Why feminism is good for men."

The video's url:

My comment:

Feminist initiatives like #HeForShe impose on men the very gender roles feminists like you claim it tries to eliminate. It just adds one detail: Only fill those roles for the benefit of women, never because it's natural or comfortable for you. And never expect to have your masculinity considered BY women while they're busy demanding you be strong & commanding against other men on women's behalf, because your humanity is secondary to your function as a shield/beast of burden for women.

Feminist propaganda campaigns like "Don't be that guy" do the same thing - make every man, specifically BECAUSE of standards for masculinity, responsible for the safety of women who can't or won't be responsible for themselves.

Meanwhile, feminists clearly feel entitled to tell men which feelings they're allowed to express.

Feeling girly? Great! You're a feminist!

Feeling a need for human companionship? Get the heck outta here, creep!

Feeling hurt over being rejected? Now you're a misogynist!

Resent the damage done when you were circumcised? Don't expect help from feminists. They're too busy lining up to tell you that women, whose genital integrity is legally protected throughout the vast majority of the world in many nations where yours isn't & even where neonatal male genital cutting is common, have it worse. And they'll tell you that you're a misogynist if you think the more widespread cutting practice is anywhere near as bad of a problem as the comparatively rare one. 

Heart broken because your children were taken from you in a divorce? Don't look to feminists for help. They're too busy opposing equally shared parenting legislation.

Would you feel more comfortable with equal reproductive rights, such as a legal equivalent to women's "safe haven" option? Don't look to feminists for help with that, either. They're too busy demanding stricter child support enforcement against you.

Hurt or afraid because you're being abused by your wife, girlfriend or a woman in your family? Don't look to feminism for that, either. They've spent the last 40+ years telling the public that doesn't happen, and if it does, it's "preemptive self-defense" because they believe you'll inevitably hit back. 

Trauma from being assaulted or even raped by a sexually aggressive woman? Yeah, don't look to feminism for help with that either. Feminist research on sexual violence has been carefully designed to avoid evidence of experiences like yours so they can paint sexual violence as a male behavior & blame you for it. 

Has your life been wrecked by false accusations? Don't expect feminists to care how you feel about that, either. Their story on your experience varies from "it's not as bad as experiencing (whatever crime you were falsely accused of) or "It's ok to sacrifice a few innocent men to ensure we catch all men guilty of (whatever the crime) as if hurting you somehow helps real victims of that crime... to "it's no big deal, because it's rare" as if rarity makes a crime less heinous (Jeffrey Dahmer's victims' families should be glad to know that)... to "This is beneficial - the falsely accused could learn something from the experience" as if you had no sympathy for victims prior & any harm done is negated by changing that... to "Women don't lie about (the crime) so it can't be false" even if you have evidence of your innocence. 

So yeah, men... you're supposed to express your feelings, except when it's not convenient for feminists, such as when you've been raped, abused, alienated, or falsely accused BY A WOMAN... or permanently scarred in a way that they feel competes with a female victim narrative. 

What DO they want you to do? 

Take dance classes, have your ass waxed, and only ever cry when bad things happen to women, because it doesn't really matter to them when bad things happen to you. 

But feminism is totally NOT about hating men, right?

Rape, a dish with no turnips

Is rape as we know it a social construct? 

If so, what does that mean about our legal and social response to it?
Does that make feminism's "rape culture" theory a social construct?
How does that affect the validity of the theory?
 The first venue for the mixed-up meetup is Wright-Patterson Air Force Museum. There is no entry fee for the museum.


Mixed-up Meet up

I'm seeking RSVPs for an August 13, 2016 meetup beginning at noon and continuing until about 9PM. This event is not limited to a particular group, but open to Gamergaters, Badger fans, MRAs & antifeminists, anyone who has been a part of the greater conversation around these social issues.

If there is enough interest/response by 7/25, I'll send everyone who RSVPs information about the 2 Dayton, Ohio area locations at which the meetup will take place (beginning at one, and then heading to the second location.) Information sent to those who RSVP will include the names and locations of the venues and the names and locations of 2 hotels within walking distance (2 miles) of the second venue. You will not be able to get this information without an RSVP.

To RSVP, send an email to mixedupmeetup@gmail.com letting me know you are coming & if anyone else will be attending with you, or add yourself to the event page on facebook.
Also let me know if you have any other questions.

Feminists don't hate men?

I am so sick of hearing that feminists don't hate men.
Every fucking conversation about feminists not hating men:

"Feminists don't hate men!"

Good, then you're willing to abandon your gender-based rape culture theory that demonizes all men as rapacious animals based on the word of a feminist who had the fucking nerve to say it's not rape when a woman forces unwanted sex on a man?

"No, and you're a misogynist for asking! Rape is a gendered attack on women! Women can't be rapists!"

Well, how about if we talk about the plight of male victims of domestic violence committed by their female partners?

"No, and you're a misogynist for asking! Domestic violence is a gendered attack on women! It doesn't matter when it happens to men."

Male suicide?

"No, and you're a misogynist for asking! Why should it matter how many men die from it when women attempt suicide far more than men do?"

Workplace death?

"No, and you're a misogynist for asking! You're just trying to distract attention from the real issue of the gender-based gap in earnings! Men's deaths are nothing compared to the terrible discrimination of paying women less for the same work"

But if men are doing the high-risk jobs and dying, and women aren't, is that the same work?


Well, at least you can acknowledge that the practice of involuntary genital cutting on children is wrong no matter which gender, right?

"No, and you're a misogynist for asking! Intactivism is for girls! Bringing up boys is just a distraction from the issue of how much worse it is to do to a girl!"

Well, what about children's right to a relationship with both parents? Surely you can support that.

"No, and you're a misogynist for asking! Fathers are deadbeats and abusers, and children must be protected from them!"

Okay, what about the problem of boys being left behind in the education system's progress?

"No, and you're a misogynist for asking! Girls need to be given an advantage because of male privilege!"

So feminists do hate men.

"No, you misogynist! We don't hate men, just toxic masculinity!"

What's toxic masculinity?

"[insert genderless dysfunction here]"

Women do that too.

"It's not the same, and you're a misogynist for thinking it is!"


"Women's actions don't matter because women are oppressed, you misogynist!"


"Bad things happen to women. Only a misogynist wouldn't know that proves women are oppressed!"

Bad things happen to men, too!

"It's worse when they happen to women, you misogynist!"


"Because women are oppressed, you misogynist!"

...and that's where it descends into the Patriarchal oppression circular reasoning spiral which, in the end, still proves only that feminists do, in fact, hate men.

Bad things are only bad when men do them, and only bad when they happen to women. Men are in control of all the bad things, and women are helpless against them. Men's intentions are always nefarious. Women's intentions are always benign at worst and more often benevolent. Women's side of every interaction with men involves being manipulated, forced, or otherwise having their action caused by men... while men's side of the interaction constitutes some kind of theft or other wrongful intrusion. Therefore, women's issues are all men's fault, and are the only important issues to address and remedy.
All because Patriarchy, which is always offered as proof of itself.

But that's not hateful, is it?

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