For the record, no, it's not.
You have no reason, and no right. When you took out a restraining order, that's a court order for him to have no contact with you, and remain a specific distance away from you. If you initiate contact of any kind, you're not only sending a mixed message (stay away from me! Except when I don't want you to, which could be at any time...) and inflicting the emotional pain associated with that mixed message, you're placing him at risk of arrest and prosecution for violating the order, even though he has made no move to do so, and even if you don't want him prosecuted.
In short, if you have restraining order against another person, and you initiate contact anyway, you are now the abuser.
In doing so, you demonstrate that you never needed the restraining order in the first place.
So for those searching to see if it's okay, no. You had your say, made your point, got your way, and it's been signed by a judge. Your court order saying he has to leave you alone goes both ways.
You've ordered him to get over you. You'd better be prepared to get over him, too.