tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1058869521866854084.comments2023-03-23T01:49:49.237-07:00Breaking the GlassesHannah Wallenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13828044784845085808noreply@blogger.comBlogger220125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1058869521866854084.post-28125988292562921342016-09-12T22:53:34.342-07:002016-09-12T22:53:34.342-07:00Hi Hannah,
Great video. Always a pleasure when yo...Hi Hannah,<br /><br />Great video. Always a pleasure when you get into linguistic history.<br /><br />I was wondering whether you have any pointers or resources that you might recommend to me so I can critique my university's recently updated sexual-assault policy; they are<br />allowing any students, faculty or staff to offer feedback on it anonymously. I doubt my feedback will have any effect, as the authors of the policy are clearly steeped in intersectional-feminist ideology, but I'd like the university to know that someone is deeply concerned about how their plans to create a new office specifically for sexual assault will likely create the familiar serious problems for anyone accused who's innocent.<br /><br />PercyPercivalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09451620565817443444noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1058869521866854084.post-63941226923349480432016-07-24T23:51:53.881-07:002016-07-24T23:51:53.881-07:00Dayton, like a number of midwestern cities, has ex...Dayton, like a number of midwestern cities, has experienced a major population decline over the past half century. Such declines are the norm for most midwestern cities and upstate New York, except the Twin Cities, Indianapolis and Columbus.<br />https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dayton,_Ohio#DemographicsRDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05120095550637873753noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1058869521866854084.post-75642631543917255192016-07-15T13:20:03.244-07:002016-07-15T13:20:03.244-07:00...Didn't know Dayton Ohio was smaller than Mo......Didn't know Dayton Ohio was smaller than Modesto...Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01959503019268921497noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1058869521866854084.post-11860844453941362852016-06-24T16:56:48.109-07:002016-06-24T16:56:48.109-07:00@Unknown (with ex who ran off)
It's amazing ...@Unknown (with ex who ran off) <br /><br />It's amazing how many women's relationships have no history of abuse in them until the woman wants to withhold child custody from her ex, the child's father.<br /><br />You should contact an attorney immediately, and if you haven't already, start documenting everything you can about your ex's history and yourself. <br /><br />Make sure the attorney knows all of the information, including the fact that your ex has a drug history. <br /><br />Talk to the attorney about treating the case as a parental kidnapping rather than a simple divorce/custody issue, because that's what your ex just did, and if you don't act to head her off, she'll use the domestic violence victim's advocacy system to aid her in that kidnapping. Hannah Wallenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13828044784845085808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1058869521866854084.post-28087109898425936812016-06-24T16:49:36.639-07:002016-06-24T16:49:36.639-07:00@Rhonda
If the document has your name on it you s...@Rhonda<br /><br />If the document has your name on it you should be able to view it. <br />Another thing you can do is make a statement to the police that says you didn't file a complaint against him and nobody else had reason to file a complaint on your behalf. <br /><br />If someone forged your name on a complaint you might also ask if you can file a complaint against the forger for forging your name. <br /><br />Aside from that, I'd recommend speaking to your friend's lawyer (and he definitely should have one) to find out what he or she thinks will be the most effective course of action. Hannah Wallenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13828044784845085808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1058869521866854084.post-38972414272835716142016-06-24T16:44:22.944-07:002016-06-24T16:44:22.944-07:00@Jessica
I'm not publishing your comment beca...@Jessica<br /><br />I'm not publishing your comment because it has personal information in it I don't think you want made public. <br /><br />My answer is as follows:<br />It <b>is</b> possible for a stepmother to get a restraining order, but unlikely under the circumstances you described (i.e. for rude language.) If you're worried she's going to try to obtain a fraudulent order (one without cause) start documenting your interactions, make a game out of seeing how nice you can be to her (this will confuse the living daylights out of her as a pleasant side effect) and contact a lawyer to see what you can do to head off an order if she files for one.<br /><br />If for some reason she gets one, it can only be used to keep you away from <b>her,</b> not your kid. You might have to go to court to get something in writing, but you'll still have the right to visitation/your share of custody, even if arrangements have to be made to get the child to you without you having to encounter the stepmother. This can be done by you having a designated person (like a family member or a close friend) pick up the child and act as transport. Hannah Wallenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13828044784845085808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1058869521866854084.post-74329360980166490572016-06-24T16:37:30.193-07:002016-06-24T16:37:30.193-07:00Re: Unknown
This is something you will have to ask...Re: Unknown<br />This is something you will have to ask an attorney.<br /><br />Re: VAW<br /><br />If you had a mutual order meaning you were ordered to stay away from him as well, then yes, you could get in trouble but if he reports you and the order is mutual it'll be just as bad for him. That makes it unlikely for there to be a complaint. <br /><br />Clearly, you are not afraid of him. It's abuse to use a restraining order against someone who is not a danger to you and not stalking you. It's also abuse to give someone that kind of mixed message; stay away, no, come back, no, stay away, no, come back... The emotions associated with that repeated rejection don't just go away because it's inconvenient for you to deal with them. Do not forget that you're not the only person in the relationship (and you've made it a relationship) with a heart. <br /><br />Even if you don't care that what you're doing is abusive, it's in your best interest to not make things any worse by toying with the guy. Every time you do, it opens up another chance for him to prove to the court that you lied about needing legal protection from him. At some point, the court would figure out that you're a fraud. Hannah Wallenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13828044784845085808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1058869521866854084.post-80361134924456655422016-06-23T18:01:10.836-07:002016-06-23T18:01:10.836-07:00Hypothetically my ex ran off on me a week an 1 day...Hypothetically my ex ran off on me a week an 1 day ago, took my daughter and I have no clue where my daughter is. Ex called the police department and said they were leaving due to and unsafe environment. Granted the police have never been to my apt ever for a domestic. Looking in the background of the ex, the ex is a known addict. The police have not done a thing to help me find my daughter. Now because I'm worried that the ex was on vacation with their mother, their going to come back this weekend and slap a tro on me along with getting thrown out of the complex which I work for. Is that possible?NieceLynnMariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14056760237580252729noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1058869521866854084.post-18268484609098764182016-06-23T03:52:13.308-07:002016-06-23T03:52:13.308-07:00Your experience is great and learning for other pe...Your experience is great and learning for other peoples.<br /><a href="http://swifteyewear.com/first-pair-free" rel="nofollow">glasses</a>Dorothyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12546549296521720720noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1058869521866854084.post-20476605572121923642016-04-30T14:53:06.832-07:002016-04-30T14:53:06.832-07:00Hi Hannah,
It’s really neat to reflect on your po...Hi Hannah,<br /><br />It’s really neat to reflect on your post just after I finished watching Erin Pizzey on the Fireside Chat, and especially her points about violence and anger not being a gendered issue, but originating in childhood trauma. I suspect that a big part of the misandry amongst radical feminists is rooted in misdirected anger. Perhaps some of them actually came to the conclusion on their own that the patriarchy is the ultimate cause of their misery; however, I’d guess that the majority just couldn’t fathom the causes—if not the reality or experience entirely—of their abuse. They were floundering in despair, and found a huge relief when they encountered feminist theory, which supplied an explanation and an easy target. Anger is their maladaptive coping mechanism to prevent the abysmal despair of total victimhood, but of course, it will never set them free.<br /><br />I say this as someone who’s experienced a lot of these issues myself and who currently copes with a personality disorder (either borderline or a form of narcissism—the psychiatrists aren’t totally sure). Though SJW antics (and bullies in general) usually trigger me, I can perceive the same patterns behaviour in them. I do think Karen’s conjecture that many of them are borderlines is accurate.<br /><br />It was also great seeing you again in Vancouver. Your answer to my question about feminism and money in academia gave me a lot to think about.<br /><br />Cheers,<br />PercyPercivalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09451620565817443444noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1058869521866854084.post-45478471101245637482016-04-15T21:45:13.134-07:002016-04-15T21:45:13.134-07:00I have a question. One of my friends was recently ...I have a question. One of my friends was recently arrested in GA. Supposedly, I'm the reason he was arrested. Him and his girl had a nasty split, but I remained friends with both. When he got out, he told me that my name was on the motion of discovery papers, but he has yet to bring them by. Can I call the jail or clerk or anyone and view the papers instead of waiting on him to bring them by? If it has my name I should be able to view it, right? Thank you. I don't have a clue about any of this. Just going by what he told me.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18187068338014832775noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1058869521866854084.post-73586206484572970032016-04-07T18:35:44.816-07:002016-04-07T18:35:44.816-07:00Best interests of the child should take into consi...Best interests of the child should take into consideration that children of single mothers make up the overwhelming majority of prison convicts. Children of single mothers have higher negative outcomes regarding homelessness, drug abuse, unemployment, teen pregnancy.cdhhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10676511603384000614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1058869521866854084.post-68655494779069904672016-04-07T18:34:33.340-07:002016-04-07T18:34:33.340-07:00Best interests of the child should take into consi...Best interests of the child should take into consideration that children of single mothers make up the overwhelming majority of prison convicts. Children of single mothers have higher negative outcomes regarding homelessness, drug abuse, unemployment, teen pregnancy.cdhhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10676511603384000614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1058869521866854084.post-72428904745837095372016-04-03T20:08:06.043-07:002016-04-03T20:08:06.043-07:00My ex did the same process after 13 years of marri...My ex did the same process after 13 years of marriage. She had taken weight loss pills and lost a tremendous amount of weight<br /> Starting going out more. By herself. Having affairs. Leaving me home with are young children. She then lied to a womens abuse shelter and had me removed from my own home. The RO was all lied. I never never was previously charged or arrested. The police had no t ever come to our home. We then got divorced. Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12201699207673840743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1058869521866854084.post-43396755791552588762016-03-31T19:36:35.448-07:002016-03-31T19:36:35.448-07:00Question..my ex and I have a mutual restraining or...Question..my ex and I have a mutual restraining order. He has visitation every other week and when he picked up our child for one visit he was crying saying he knew he screwed up and lost the best thing that ever happened to him and asked me to give him the courtesy of listening to what he had to say so I did & we both ended up in tears. I felt like we actually were getting along. He also had some issues where he lives and didnt want to take our child there and again I felt guilty and it resulted in me allowing him to come to my home (against the order) and I even let him sleep over and I'm not sure what the heck i was thinking or what planet I was on but we had sex. I know my actions show I don't need the order but it was requested based on the fact that he has randomly shown up at my home and has once spit in my face and is very verbally abusive. I've decided that I am going to put him behind me and move on with my life but I've already violated the restraining order so is it now void and can I or we be in trouble for this now? VAWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15702555965489914117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1058869521866854084.post-70326471144838681902016-03-31T19:35:07.642-07:002016-03-31T19:35:07.642-07:00Question..my ex and I have a mutual restraining or...Question..my ex and I have a mutual restraining order. He has visitation every other week and when he picked up our child for one visit he was crying saying he knew he screwed up and lost the best thing that ever happened to him and asked me to give him the courtesy of listening to what he had to say so I did & we both ended up in tears. I felt like we actually were getting along. He also had some issues where he lives and didnt want to take our child there and again I felt guilty and it resulted in me allowing him to come to my home (against the order) and I even let him sleep over and I'm not sure what the heck i was thinking or what planet I was on but we had sex. I know my actions show I don't need the order but it was requested based on the fact that he has randomly shown up at my home and has once spit in my face and is very verbally abusive. I've decided that I am going to put him behind me and move on with my life but I've already violated the restraining order so is it now void and can I or we be in trouble for this now? VAWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15702555965489914117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1058869521866854084.post-57730692274581512162016-03-31T19:34:14.912-07:002016-03-31T19:34:14.912-07:00Question..my ex and I have a mutual restraining or...Question..my ex and I have a mutual restraining order. He has visitation every other week and when he picked up our child for one visit he was crying saying he knew he screwed up and lost the best thing that ever happened to him and asked me to give him the courtesy of listening to what he had to say so I did & we both ended up in tears. I felt like we actually were getting along. He also had some issues where he lives and didnt want to take our child there and again I felt guilty and it resulted in me allowing him to come to my home (against the order) and I even let him sleep over and I'm not sure what the heck i was thinking or what planet I was on but we had sex. I know my actions show I don't need the order but it was requested based on the fact that he has randomly shown up at my home and has once spit in my face and is very verbally abusive. I've decided that I am going to put him behind me and move on with my life but I've already violated the restraining order so is it now void and can I or we be in trouble for this now? VAWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15702555965489914117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1058869521866854084.post-81061921690338295272016-03-30T21:03:34.591-07:002016-03-30T21:03:34.591-07:0016 years of marriage. My wife starts setting a str...16 years of marriage. My wife starts setting a string of other men...feels awkward coming home to me. Starts treating me like crap. Verbally and emotionally abusive I front of my kids.. I threaten suicide. She gets a protection order. Makes it permanent. Takes 4 bank accounts, my house, my kids, cancels my insurance, my health benefits, my cell phone and gym membership. I am homeless. Lady yeast i earned 95k. Gave up my business to take care of the kids while we moved to our dream home on the beach. New boyfriend is 54, married too a 24 year old. He's ex-meth addict/convicted violent criminal. So. Yes restraining orders can bee used but bad purple against good. There is a website that instructs women on how to use restraining orders to circumnavigate states residency rewuirements for divorce.Hetkeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12501682677867410203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1058869521866854084.post-83767741932805597882016-03-29T05:42:01.162-07:002016-03-29T05:42:01.162-07:00How do I get a restraining order lifted after the ...How do I get a restraining order lifted after the judge won't nd we want it gone..will I go to jail if she is at my house?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01038252861381280643noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1058869521866854084.post-37263042399129803212016-03-12T23:49:21.310-08:002016-03-12T23:49:21.310-08:00No contact means no contact in any manner thru any...No contact means no contact in any manner thru any person or entity.Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12201699207673840743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1058869521866854084.post-74588043850457387732016-03-12T23:46:32.646-08:002016-03-12T23:46:32.646-08:00YesYesKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12201699207673840743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1058869521866854084.post-10129143581107542302016-03-12T23:44:57.268-08:002016-03-12T23:44:57.268-08:00Stsy aesy. Check to see if RO is in effect. Do not...Stsy aesy. Check to see if RO is in effect. Do not respone to her. Do NOT frust her.Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12201699207673840743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1058869521866854084.post-28366984934339766262016-03-07T17:37:17.218-08:002016-03-07T17:37:17.218-08:00@netfrog
If I were in your shoes, I would carefull...@netfrog<br />If I were in your shoes, I would carefully document every instance of abuse, exactly as police have said, and then check with an attorney to find out how to have the restraining order against you lifted using the argument that it is nothing but an attempt to keep you from contact with your kids. <br /><br />On a side note, begging for the time you're supposed to have with your kids is not harassment. It sounds like you've been subjected to parental alientation.<br />Hannah Wallenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13828044784845085808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1058869521866854084.post-364898353090312492016-03-07T17:33:08.882-08:002016-03-07T17:33:08.882-08:00@ LittleBrokenAngel Rose
Let me set this to a less...@ LittleBrokenAngel Rose<br />Let me set this to a less self-excusing tone:<br />You told the court and police you were so afraid of this guy that you needed an order of protection to keep him away from you, then YOU failed to keep away from HIM, thereby communicating that you are not, in fact, all that afraid. <br /><br />You are deliberately leading a man on who you subjected to a legal condition which will place him in jail for taking your bait. Stop doing that. That is sick, sadistic behavior. <br /><br />Do not engage in any further contact with the person you targeted with a restraining order. Block him on every social media account you have had contact with him on. Block his number from contacting your phone. Do not accept messages from him from your friends, and do tell them not to bring you any. You asked to be left alone. If you genuinely care about this guy, you'll give him the same courtesy. Continuing to contact him has nothing to do with caring about him, but is only an effort to make yourself not feel bad about the legal trouble a restraining order causes for an individual. <br /><br />Regarding the legal end of your question, you need a lawyer to answer that. Hannah Wallenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13828044784845085808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1058869521866854084.post-77661722149094815142016-03-07T17:26:09.570-08:002016-03-07T17:26:09.570-08:00@Natalie Oldroyd-Young
It's hard to understand...@Natalie Oldroyd-Young<br />It's hard to understand your comment. <br />If you're admitting to having friends lie to your ex to get him to stalk you, stop doing that and move on.<br />If all you're seeing is your ex posting lies about you on facebook, that problem can be solved by not stalking his facebook page, and asking your friends to not bother you with unwanted communication from him. That kind of behavior only satisfies the person doing it if he or she thinks it's getting to you. <br /><br />Regarding arrest, no, if you don't have a restraining order against the friends, you can't get them arrested for gossiping about you. <br />Hannah Wallenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13828044784845085808noreply@blogger.com