tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1058869521866854084.post7338667356709111658..comments2023-03-23T01:49:49.237-07:00Comments on Breaking the Glasses: You Asked For ItHannah Wallenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13828044784845085808noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1058869521866854084.post-53300251101635298932014-04-04T08:21:49.448-07:002014-04-04T08:21:49.448-07:00@ Canadian Dude
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I'm really sorry to h...@ Canadian Dude<br /><br />Thanks.<br />I'm really sorry to hear what you're going through. It's awful, and just as awful is how common and easily tolerated behavior like your ex's is in today's society. <br /><br />This is why I keep saying in the MR community that we as a society need to teach boys that they have a right to vet potential dates for character. Men should not have to be this vulnerable to the impact female dysfunction, especially when the red flag behavior is right there. When a woman says "I want to get married because my biological clock is ticking" it's the same as saying "I want to embark on a lifelong partnership with you and become responsible for shepherding the start of another person's life not because I am committed to either you or the future children, but to satisfy my own sense of normalcy, and I don't care if I put my partner and children in adverse circumstances to fulfill that desire." How selfish!<br /><br />Men should know they have the right to expect the same upstanding character from women that women expect from men; the same level of mindfulness of one's responsibility to the self, the family, and the greater community. Instead, you get criticized and shamed for having those expectations, and as your situation shows, not only does that hurt men in relationships with women who choose to <i>not</i> be so mindful, it also hurts any children involved and creates expenses the greater community is left to foot. Hannah Wallenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13828044784845085808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1058869521866854084.post-36152285205877350662014-04-01T18:51:40.509-07:002014-04-01T18:51:40.509-07:00Your blog is spellbindingly amazing!
This came up...Your blog is spellbindingly amazing!<br /><br />This came up in my most recent relationship with a woman (man here).<br /><br />She sold me a bad bill of goods. The hardworking single mother going to university to get a career in public health, upon moving in with me, promptly quit going to school, didnt work, didnt clean up after herself, and what little money she got from welfare was only supposed to go towards bills for the house (rent free!) that she didnt pay.<br /><br />She pushed and pushed for marriage and more children, and i aptly refused on the grounds that i wanted to see her try to go somewhere in life and at least adhere to a regular routine so i would be able to see a life with her that i might want to live forever.<br /><br />Her defense was that her biological clock was ticking and she wanted two more kids and didnt want it to be too late! <br /><br />When she accused me of stringing her along and perhaps never wanting marriage i basically said what you said much more eloquently in this post to her.<br /><br />That she was wearing a hundred grand in student debt, with no job and no career, and couldnt even wake up in the morning to get her own daughter to school on time regularly because she stayed up all night. That marriage and children is a pretty bad deal for men because with no fault divorce and a one sided family court system ive got everything to lose and i can only hope to gain companionship and a partner in life - something i certainly wasnt seeing much of.<br /><br />She took great offense but made no changes, and prolifically said she was not one of those women who would soak a man if the relationship dissolved or use the police and false allegations as a weapon.<br /><br />A week and a half ago when she came to get some of her things which i nicely stored for her for four months after she left me - with a police officer. (i never threatened or abused her).<br /><br />Despite making an agreement that i could continue being dad to her daughter that i helped raise from age 5-9 and taught to read. I havent been able to see the kid for more than 5 minutes while she moved some things in 4 months.<br /><br />Its been insinuated that i am a potential molester to child protection authorities. The school and girl guides have all heard that im an abusive drunk who yells at her.<br /><br />Yes i did yell sometimes. It was along the lines of, "for the love of god your home all day and im at work all week why on earth am i coming home to run the dishwasher 3 times back to back to clean up dishes i havent even been here to use!"<br /><br />But i guess expecting your partner to clean up after herself and her daughter and wake the heck up on time to get the kid to school is a cheauvenistic outdated attitude.<br /><br />Keep up the good work! ;-)Canadian Dudehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12514421499967861685noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1058869521866854084.post-13891916471032626562012-08-30T07:13:13.836-07:002012-08-30T07:13:13.836-07:00this is to true! men are being pushed around by wo...this is to true! men are being pushed around by women and taken advantage of in the courts and life. This idea of men going their own way is probably a good one. Men need time to heal, and many women need time to grow up!AnnAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14702956177323137816noreply@blogger.com